For years, I visited every salon she worked at. Many times just to chat. Other times to get service.

She was my friend.

Honestly, I didn’t think much of paying her. Not because I didn’t think she deserved it, but because she didn’t really request it.

How selfish was I!

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Each time I returned home, I made appointments and hardly ever paid. I may have gotten her food along the way, or purchased my own products from the beauty supply store but, does that equate to the value she brought to my life after my hair was done? After she listened for hours to all of my complaints and problems? Hell no!

To add insult to injury, she had a family just like me, bills just like me. So, why didn’t I value her work or her friendship? A true friend wouldn’t allow another to suffer, that’s exactly what I was doing by not paying her her worth.

Many times we talked about bills, rents etc. Not one blasted time it crossed my mind that I could be a part of her financial problem. Why am I putting this burden on myself you ask?

Let’s get down to some numbers:

Wash & Style weekly $65* 40 weeks = $2600>

Touch up and color every 4 weeks $95=$1140 over 12 months

Total=$3740 *3years(minimum)=$11,220











I’m so embarrassed looking at these numbers.

How many times have you skipped out on a service or product in the name of “friendship” or “favor”?

Does it make me feel better that I wasn’t the only “friend” doing this? Nope, because I’m not responsible for anyone else’s actions but, when I think back to a number of people that did it, my stomach churns.

I’ll say it again.

It wasn’t done maliciously or even consciously. It was something I had become accustomed to. Even after she moved to a more prestigious salon she continued to give her “valued friends” a huge discount, even though she only received but a portion of her earnings.

As I sit here with plenty of outstanding invoices, I feel used and undervalued. Why don’t clients see the value I’m bringing to their business to pay on time?
Honestly, I feel like it’s payback in a roundabout way. How dare I treat my friend that way, my friend of over 30 years!

Shame on me.

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I apologize.
I apologize to anyone that has not been paid their worth or had their value undermined.
I apologize to those that I have outstanding invoices with.
I apologize to anyone that I owe.


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